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Your time is limited,
so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Don’t be trapped by dogma,
which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.
Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions
drown out your inner voice.
And most important,
have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
Everything else is secondary

~Steve Jobs

Last night I participated in a New Moon ceremony. A clearing of mind, heart and soul and a stated intention for the coming month.
The clearing part was a little harder than normal, as much has been happening in my life lately. Nothing major, just a continuous series of events that have encouraged me to evaluate and re-evaluate some of my beliefs about boundaries.

I would really like to be able to have the people in my life self-monitor their actions, but it seems no matter how hard I want that to happen, it is not a realistic point of view. I choose to get out of the way of self-imploding people when I can, but when I am in a confined space, I struggle with having empathy for the fallibility of the human condition and not allowing myself to become a target.

It seems that if we could really be responsible for our own attitudes and energy we would not need to put up mental walls and fences. The view would be so much nicer! But as it is, I am practicing my spiritual Aikido on a daily basis and deflecting the sloppy stuff directed toward me. I find it to be a centering exercise for me, while very curiously observing that once the other person has had their energy/attitude/intention redirected from me, their own behavior and attitude continues to propel them.

My stated intentions and deepest personal desires continue to be consistent, but perhaps stating them clearly will help them fully manifest.

To be seen for who I really am
To be recognized by those who need to see me
To be of service
To accept the life lessons given to me with grace and humility.

Love to all,
-Deb

Throw your heart over the fence
and the rest will follow



~ Norman Vincent Peale

So here I was, toodling along with my day. Head buried in code, listening to some mellow inspiring music, focused on the tasks at hand, and then bam!

In switching to another CD, an album cover popped up, that had a doppleganger picture of someone I lost. Enough to take my breath away and make the tears well up before I could stop them.

It has been many years and the loss still hurts deeply.  The knowledge that there are such things “soul mates” and that one or the other may not be recognized is a little more  than I would have cared to discover.

In this world of wondrous, joyful experiences, there are also painful lessons to be learned. Hopefully, acknowledging and continuing to accept what is, will open my heart to what may be.

Love to all,

-Deb

I wonder how many of us really allow ourselves to live fully in the moment…

With the exception of hurtful things like rape, murder, assault, abuse, things that are not willingly received on the other side…. do you allow yourself to truly, and openly “be” in the moment.

Do you censor your joy or vulnerability? Do you say the things that you really feel in your heart or just the things that you believe are expected from other people.

Do you make decisions based on perceptions that you believe other people will make or think? Can you see beyond the physical shells that we carry and appreciate the hearts of the people in your lives?

I wonder what it would be like if we all trusted each other enough to say and believe the truth given to us.

It can start with a single leap of faith from each of us!

Love to all,
-Deb

Meditation has helped me to have a genuine willingness to explore and make peace with myself. I continue to work towards the calmness that comes from awareness and non-attachment and seem to maintain it fairly consistently now.

So if you are interested…

Tips for Achieving Meditative State….

Take your time. Don’t be hard on yourself if it doesn’t come easily. That is part of the meditation process too.

Body Awareness:

Become hyper-aware of your body and its placement. For example, start at the top of your head and systematically become aware of each part of your body – do you feel warmth, chill, breeze, aching, etc… – Head, ears, neck, shoulders, etc… be aware that you subdue this awareness of your own body as your most common state of existence. It may help to imagine you are building your body into physical existence, but cannot add a part until you become aware of it and the sensations that it provides. If you lose track and become engaged in mind chatter, when you realize you have become distracted, mindfully stop the chatter and start building the awareness of your body again, from the beginning.

Breath:

Another technique is to simply use your breath. Allow yourself to become aware of your breath. Become hyper-aware of the muscles that are used, the depth or shallowness of your breath. Follow the sensation of breath as if you were the air itself. Once you feel comfortable with your awareness of your breath, try to focus your attention on a single aspect of it.
Allow your breath to be even and relaxed. It is your natural state. If you become engaged in mind chatter, when you realize you have become distracted, mindfully stop the chatter and return to your breath.

Sound:

I find this technique to be particularly useful if I am having a lot of mind chatter. It seems to work like a switch for me. I find that if I am making a noise either in my head or very low audibly, it seems to turn the chatter off. Use either a steady tone or an Aum, but no defined words or melodies.

Awareness:

I think this technique is the hardest, but may be the most useful once mastered.
Allow your mind to drift into a black void. Gradually allow all coherent thoughts to cease. Turn off all internal dialogue. As you become aware of how chaotic your mind is with unwanted thoughts and impressions, try to release each one. Even the thought that “Hey, I am quieting my mind…I think this is working” is an intrusion into the void. As all thoughts are released, you simply become aware. Stay in the state of awareness by maintaining absence of thought.
As you become comfortable and more familiar with each practice, you will find that the time to get into a meditative state may become very short, or that you may even be able to maintain a sense of waking meditation all the time. I believe the most useful purpose of meditation is to notice the workings of your mind and then to bring peaceful clarity into it.

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The entire process is a journey of self discovery, discipline and ultimately awareness. Each time a person consciously begins meditation, there is an acknowledgment that the state does not currently exist. We all begin at the beginning, one breath or awareness at a time.  I don’t believe that “meditation” is turning your mind into nothingness (although sometimes that is a doorway), rather it is an awareness of the universe and the love that is there and allowing your sense of self to dissipate to the point you are able to become enveloped and strengthened by it. At times, you may easily slip into a meditative state and others you may struggle. You may find a combination of techniques work, or you may develop your own…there are no “rules”. However, patience and resolve are important. If you get distracted or irritated, make sure that you practice letting those feelings go and starting again.

Unconditional Love:

As you begin the process of mediation, it might be helpful to have a thought to meditate on once you get there. I suggest that you allow yourself to feel the unconditional love that is freely given by the universe to every creature and in turn allow your kindness and goodwill to add to the already immeasurable amount that is there.
Allow the peacefulness to go straight into your heart and carry it with you until your next meditation.

Love to all,
Deb